How to choose the right Christmas activities for your child’s unique needs
As the holidays approach, we’ve been asking Variety families about their favourite traditions and activities. Crowd-pleasing recipes and family time are often top of the list.
This season is fun and full and it’s easy to jam-pack our calendars. As any parent knows, getting all the littles dressed, fed, and out the door can feel like climbing Mount Everest some days!
If you have a child with disabilities or complex health needs, the holidays can also bring other considerations. For instance, changes to routines, travel, or lots of stimulation can sometimes be a challenge for kids with autism, ADHD, sensory challenges, or anxiety.
So, what are some ways to slow down and make this season more enjoyable for the whole family?
First of all, give yourself permission to simplify things. Saying no to some activities (no matter how fun they sound!) helps you prioritize others that will be less stressful and more meaningful. Spending more time on fewer things leaves more room to enjoy the company of friends and family, and get more time for rest too!
Kristin Evans, author, mental health counsellor and mom of two kids who have rare genetic disorders, suggests starting the holiday season by reflecting on these questions:
- What kinds of activities does your family enjoy together?
- What kinds of activities does your family not enjoy?
- What types of social situations or outings work well for your family?
- What types of social situations or outings do not work well for your family?
- What expectations or pressures from family and friends might you be trying to fulfill that might not be best for your family?
- What could you do differently this year that would decrease stress and create more enjoyment?
- What’s one new special tradition you can start that will be unique for your family?
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let go of your own expectations. You might still be comparing your holidays to what you experienced growing up or to the curated experience on someone else’s feed.
But no matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to do everything you want to, nor will the things you do try turn out quite the way you hoped. Accepting this helps you appreciate and enjoy what is, because your expectations aren’t getting in the way.
Take a breath. You’re doing your best in this moment. And that’s enough. The greatest gift is to treasure the time you have with the people you love—messy, unpredictable and beautiful as that time always is.
Finally, don’t be intimidated by asking for help! It’s all too common to take on everything ourselves; but actually, being vulnerable and seeking support is form of courage. When you ask for an extra set of hands from family or friends, you’ll often find a community of support waiting to lighten the load.
Our team at Variety BC wishes you a joyful, peaceful holiday, with generous space in your days for the people and activities that matter most to you.
Bonus:
If you’re looking for simple, cost-effective activities to do with your kids, skip the decision fatigue and try these playful holiday crafts and treats, courtesy of Specially Gifted. Each idea is designed with kids with diverse abilities and needs in mind.